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August 14, 2005
How to Find a Role Model to Shadow
If I say the word, "internship", you know what I mean. You know how to find one, how to get one, and even how to make the most of one. And if you don't, there are tons of books you can read, web sites you can visit, and people you can talk to about it. But what about shadowing?
Shadowing is essentially becoming right-hand person to of a role model of yours. Instead of starting at the bottom of an organization, you start at the top. Speaking from experience, shadowing can be an incredible experience. Over the past three years, I've had the great pleasure of shadowing the president of the National Foundation for Teaching Entrepreneurship and it has changed my life. In The Student Success Manifesto I talk more about what shadowing is and its benefits.
However, this article actually talks about how to get your role model to take you on. Below are tips you can use: - Get an Introduction. When you shadow somebody you will more than likely see confidential documents. Therefore, building trust is critical. Getting in the door via an introduction may be the best step you can take.
- Become a Star Alumnus: Joining nonprofits that serve youth such as summer programs, colleges, and seminars can be extremely powerful for learning and growth. At the same time, many of these organizations are run by incredible people and must gain the support of the powerful and wealthy to grow. By becoming a star alumnus, you may get access to the top of the organization and to the key people who support it. The better you do, the better the organization looks.
- Have an Informational Interview: Many of your role models have probably never had somebody shadow them before. Therefore, you need to make them feel comfortable with the whole process. Just like AOL gives away a free, one-month trial, you should start by asking your potential targets to have lunch with you and offer their advice.
- Invite Him/Her to Speak at Your School: People generally enjoying speaking at colleges and universities. As such, by inviting your target to your school, you build a relationship with your target, help other students, and show that you are an actor and influencer.
- Help Him/Her: Being young doesn't mean you can't add value to others. You have a fresh perspective, understanding of youth culture, and most likely a strong grasp of technology. These three things alone can be extremely helpful to your target. You can begin to understand your target's needs by researching him/her and the organizations they're a part of.
There is no set process to shadowing, so have fun and be creative. This can be a very rewarding experience. At the same time, realize that the process of building a relationship can take a long time. Good Luck!
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November 02, 2004
Toward a New Definition of Time Management
One reason entrepreneurship is special to me is that it provides a unique outlet for me to lose myself in time. Day after day, month after month for the last six years I've been able to work on my business for as long as I want and be happy. I thought this was because of the actual content of what I was doing.
However, I'm beginning to realize that the structure of how we manage our time has a very large impact on our enjoyment of it. For example, I started a new part-time position last Monday as a director/consultant for the Bank of America Youth Entrepreneurship Program in New York City. While I love this position and enjoyed myself, being paid hourly and working out of an office (while I start), resulted in me looking at the clock more often than I would have liked. The same sometimes happens to me in classess that I enjoy. However, if I'm doing something menial, but it's for my business, and I can do it from my apartment at 2am in my boxers, I may love it. Below are some things that seem to affect how one looks at one's time: - When it comes to how you spend your time, do you have control over where, what, when, how, and who?
- Does the task lead to a result that is not only important to you, but the most important? That is not only relevant and applicable, but the most relevant and applicable?
- If you are getting paid, are you getting paid an hourly wage? a salary? based on results? Do you have ownership in the company you're working for?
- Does it feel good to do the activity?
- Who judges the results of your activities? a boss? the markets? yourself?
- Are you good at what you're doing? Are you making progress?
I know that this list is incomplete, but I still hold that the structure of how we manage our time is very crucial and very under-rated.
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October 30, 2004
3 Life Transforming Vuja Daze Strategies
Vuja daze is a word I use, based on d?j? vu, to describe new, extremely valuable experences and ideas. In The Student Success Manifesto, which you can get for free as an ebook, I talk about it more in-depth.
This article will focus on three power strategies for incorporating vuja daze into your life: - Creative Destruction. Over the years, I've come realize an important distinction in openness, passive openness vs. active openness. Many people say they're open to new ideas, but never are exposed to them. How many people actually take accountability for exposure to new ideas by seeking them out and creatively destroying old ones? Tom Peters, a bestselling author whose every new book I read, delivers speeches quite a bit. Although he could reuse the same speeches from year-to-year, he makes it a point to creatively destroy and reinvent at least 10% of his presentation. What parts of your thinking are you creatively destroying and reinventing?
- Full Spectrum Dialogue. It is a habit for many of us to seek out knowledge that simply reaffirms what we already know. After all, it feels good to be right. However, doing this cuts off entire bodies of knowledge from us and limits our growth. I remember sitting in on one of John Sexton's (president of NYU) classes when he made two points that have stuck with me:
- "We live in a world where people can always find what they're looking for." - In other words, be careful what you look for, you may find it. Are you looking for truth or are you looking for something that simply fits in with your existing knowledge and beliefs?
- Later in that same class, he warned of the potential dangers of the following quote from a member of the Bush campaign, "The problem with John Kerry is that he doesn't see things in black and white." In other words, be careful when you draw lines in your life when you say something is absolutely true and decide that its veracity cannot be challenged. Many topics of debate simply do not have an absolute right or wrong, true or false answer. Understanding different vantage points can help you understand where others are coming from. Realize the complexity of knowledge and the dangers of simple answers.
- Paridigm Transformation and Extension. In my opinion, there are two different types of vuja daze that are very valuable:
- Paradigm Transforming - Is the new experience or idea one you've never experienced or heard of with the potential to revolutionize your worldview! I always know I'm in this realm when I'm reading a book that introduces lots of new vocabulary. To me, each new word is amazing. At some point in history, an individual or group of individuals came to realize that they did not have a word to describe something meaningful they were experiencing or trying to understand. By coining the word, they improved the effectiveness of their thinking and communication. To reach the present day, culture had to find the word valuable enough to spread and ultimately accept.
- Paradigm Extending - This is more of an evolution of your worldview, rather than a revolution. Take politics for example. Paradigm extension would be if a Republican decided to sincerely explore and understand Democratic Party points of view. In contrast, paradigm transformation might be a political leader exploring the world of business.
In the end, both paradigm transformation and extension can be extremely valuable. What can you read or who could you talk to today that would transform or evolve your worldview?
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October 26, 2004
Benefits of Building Your Mentor Network
There are a number of ways to learn in the world. You can buy books, attend seminars/conferences/events, take classes, read articles, participate in on-the-job training, and much more. With all of these methods, one essentially learns from somebody who has more experience than you. One often under appreciated method is mentorship.
Benefits of Mentorship - Introductions. Build a relationship with an individual where you can not only get knowledge, but introductions to other people.
- Customized Knowledge. As opposed to a book or school where the curriculum is controlled, you can ask specific questions that are of interest to you or get feedback on your goals and strategies.
- Understand the Individual. Research shows that 7% of communication is what you say, and that the other percent is how you say it. Having phone and one-on-one contact with mentors can provide valuable contextual information that helps you determine that validity of their knowledge.
- Letters of Recommendation. As you build a relationship with the individual, you can ask them for recommendations to scholarships, schools, and jobs. Sometimes this can even go farther to an actual call if the individual personally knows individuals in the organization you're applying to.
- Free Food. Although you should always offer to pay when you take a mentor out to lunch, 95% of the time they will pay. This beats paying thousands of dollars for one class at a university.
- It's Easy. You'd be extremely surprised at how easy it is to set up a mentor meeting with individuals, even when you're cold calling. Many people are extremely willing to help ambitious, hard-working young people. Read my article, "Use Your Youth To Your Advantage" for more information on this.
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September 03, 2004
Time Off Curriculum
Two and a half years ago, I took a semester off. Looking back, I'm extremely happy I did despite strong pressures the other way. At the beginning of the time off, I wrote out a curriculum. Here is what I wrote (comments in italics are what actually happened):
I?ve spent the last thirteen and a half years of my life attending public learning institutions and for the first time ever, I?m taking a semester off. I?m taking a semester off to rapidly grow and achieve my potential more than I feel I could in school. I?m taking a semester off because it's something that I?ve wanted to do, but never had the guts to do. And finally, I?m taking a semester off because I think I have more to lose if I don?t, than if do.
My curriculum was developed by the advice of many people. I?ve decided to list the main activities I will be doing and my rationale behind doing them: - Conferences/Seminars. I will attend conferences that are pique my interest. To save money I will use greyhound when close. I will also call all of the events in advance and ask to volunteer so as to not have to pay the hefty fees. So far I have planned a social business, creative problem solving, accelerated learning, entrepreneurship, and a consciousness and science conference. I am going to two for free because I?m leading a few breakout sessions or helping to plan it. I?m going to the other three for large (sometimes 90%) discounts because I?m volunteering. As for seminars I?m going to the Landmark Advanced Forum, seminars I find at The Learning Annex, The Seminar Center and those I find through word-of-mouth.
Pretty much happened as I wrote it here.
- Reading. I?ve created a list of prioritized books that I would like to read. I?ve chosen the books by asking people that I respect for their advice. Books that start to come up a lot go near the top.
I read a lot, but not as much as I had planned.
- Travel. I would like to travel to Europe, Africa, and Asia. While in Asia I would like to spend some time being part of a spiritual community. To make this cheaper I will be using my advantage miles. I also hope to be able to set up speaking gigs with organizations located in some of those countries to reduce the travel costs and give me contacts where I go. I hope to do this in late summer into next fall.
Unfortunately, I did not go anywhere internationally. I am hoping to do this in the next few years.
- Shadowing/Interviewing/Discussions/Meeting. I hope to be in touch with 2-3 mentors a week from different disciplines. I would like to target people that I find intriguing. Depending on the person I would like to either shadow them, interview them, or have a discussion with them. I would also like to add value to them in any way I can if this is possible.
I met a lot of new mentors, but not 2-3/week. I have about 50 mentors right now from various disciplines.
- Boards. I would like to be on the board of 2-3 companies that I?m interested in. I believe that this would be a good way to give back and to develop contacts.
I am now on the advisory board for the New York metro region of the National Foundation for Teaching Entrepreneurhip.
- Vuja Daze. Vuja Daze is sort of like D?j? vu except it means to experience new things. I would like to take advantage of activities that are new to me as they come up even if I would normally not do it.
This definitely happened.
- Meet 5 people a day. I live in New York City. I would thus like to spend time just meeting five random people a day. This builds my social skills, and helps me understand more people from different cultures and backgrounds, and helps me build contacts.
I didn't even come close, or for that matter, even put much effort toward this.
- Move. I would like to move to a new area with in New York City with new people so I can understand a different way of life. So far I?ve live in Greenich Village and the East Village.
I moved to Brooklyn, where I would live for two years.
- Daily Discussions. I plan to have daily discussions with my girl friend, Sheena who I live with. In these discussions that will be roughly .5-1.5 hours long, we listen to each other and share/teach what we learned. The goal will be for mutual growth and to form a synthesis of what we both learned during the day.
This happened.
- Partner Work. There are different accelerated learning techniques that I?ve learned that require partners. I would like to spend about 30 minutes per day working on these.
I don't think this happened.
- Junto. I plan to organize a group of 8-13 interesting and motivated people in the New York City area to meet once a week. Each week a topic will be chosen such as ?taking a semester off?, ?homelessness?, etc. and we will discuss the topics and expand ourselves. We also might use this forum to help each other solve one another?s problems.
This didn't happen, but I'm actually in the works of trying to set it up right now with the some of the world's top young entrepreneurs.
- Entrepreneurship. As discussed in my previous article, The Entrepreneurship Manifesto [name changed to "Why Every Student Should Start a Business", starting a business is an excellent activity for many reasons. I will be working on sustaining the web development company, Princeton WebSolutions and launch Emerald Bridge, a grassroots marketing company servicing companies who target college students.
Princeton WebSolutions no longer exists except for some old clients I maintain. Emerald Bridge was never launched because I lost my passion for it. I did spend a great deal of time begining to write "The Student Success Manifesto".
- Infopreneurship. Infopreneurship is like entrepreneurship except the service is your information and it can be distributed through books, articles, talking, seminars, and so on. One of the advantages of infopreneurship is that you specifically increase your brand power. From these I would like to write for different magazines and write a book. I would also like to speak to different colleges and organizations.
I did get some articles published. I also began speaking at events.
- Yoga and Meditation. For the past six years of my life I?ve been very involved in tennis. During high school I went to tournaments and played for the high school team. In college, I played for the NYU tennis team. Unfortunately, my knees started to give me trouble making it much harder to enjoy the sport as I couldn?t reach my potential and it was painful. I would really like to pursue yoga and meditation because the combination of the both increases health, flexibility, mental ability, and strength. Also, they seem nice because I can do them from the comfort of my own home once I get more experienced.
I did this, but only very little.
- Liberty Partnership Program. I will continue teaching web design classes on Wednesdays to middle school/high school students from the city.
Did it.
- Eat Well, Sleep Well. This is something I?ve wanted to do for a while. I really don?t like being having to worry about eating healthy or walk like a zombie during the day. I commit to eating a healthy a diet as I know how and sleeping 8 hours a day and getting into a routine.
Yes, I did this, and have still kept this habit extremely well. I eat very healthily and sleep 8-9 hours/day.
- New Therapy Techniques. There are a little of different therapies for the human psyche and physiology. As I get money I would like to learn more about and test different techniques such as Network Spinal Analysis, Acupuncture, Chiropractor, Therapy, Hypnosis, and so on.
I did this a little, but not as much as I wanted.
- Research. I would like to first research the different organizations and individuals that give grants to people doing research. Secondly, with or without the funding I would like to research some of the world?s most successful youth. These include youth who are enjoying life to the max and excelling at whatever they choose to do.
I did this a little, and am still doing it to some extent.
- Strategic Planning. I would like to re-examine my values, beliefs, short term, medium-term, and long-term goals.
Did this.
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July 30, 2004
When Smart People Disagree, Who Do You Listen To?
Survival of the fittest! Or so Darwin proclaimed. Those organisms that successfully adapt to their environment, thrive. Those organisms that don't, die off. This article will demonstrate how acquiring more information about your environment can help you thrive in life. More specifically, this article will talk about a seemingly simple subset of feedback: getting advice from others.
5 Feedback Rules To Die By - Pick the right people. Over the past few months we've gotten feedback on the business plan for Extreme Entrepreneurship from successful publishers, venture capitalists, consultants, professors, students, entrepreneurs, and so on. Each has been very successful in their niche. Each has given different advice!
When giving feedback, people can only respond based on their experiences (real or perceived). An individual who got straight A's at a prestigious college and then went on to have a great career will probably tell you that choosing the right school and getting good grades are crucial. An individual who drops out (Bill Gates, Michael Dell), gets kicked out (Ted Turner), or chooses not to go to college (Richard Branson) will likely tell you that success doesn't depend on college. Are both sides wrong? Is one right?
In the end, I'd argue that both can be valid now as they worked for somebody in the past. However, advice from somebody who has no direct experience with that you're trying to do can be risky. Would you take beauty advice from a blind man? Therefore, I'd recommend getting your advice from people who've achieved what you want to achieve or at least tried and learned from it. Better yet, try to get advice from somebody who has achieved more than you think you ever could! Let them be a beacon to you of what?s possible.
- Pick different people. Getting advice from many people can be extremely valuable. However, it can also be detrimental. If I get advice on a publishing company, I want to get feedback from people who've experienced it from different angles (publisher, consultant, funder, etc.) as well as with differing degrees of success. Each will give you another piece to the puzzle. The classic poem below illustrates the importance of this concept. It is called "The Blind Men and The Elephant", by John Godfrey Saxe (1816-1887) and is based on an old Indian fable:
It was six men of Indostan
To learning much inclined,
Who went to see the Elephant
(Though all of them were blind),
That each by observation
Might satisfy his mind
The First approached the Elephant,
And happening to fall
Against his broad and sturdy side,
At once began to bawl:
?God bless me! but the Elephant
Is very like a wall!?
The Second, feeling of the tusk,
Cried, ?Ho! what have we here
So very round and smooth and sharp?
To me ?tis mighty clear
This wonder of an Elephant
Is very like a spear!?
The Third approached the animal,
And happening to take
The squirming trunk within his hands,
Thus boldly up and spoke:
?I see,? quoth he, ?the Elephant
Is very like a snake!?
The Fourth reached out an eager hand,
And felt about the knee.
?What most this wondrous beast is like
Is mighty plain,? quoth he;
? ?Tis clear enough the Elephant
Is very like a tree!?
The Fifth, who chanced to touch the ear,
Said: ?E?en the blindest man
Can tell what this resembles most;
Deny the fact who can
This marvel of an Elephant
Is very like a fan!?
The Sixth no sooner had begun
About the beast to grope,
Than, seizing on the swinging tail
That fell within his scope,
?I see,? quoth he, ?the Elephant
Is very like a rope!?
And so these men of Indostan
Disputed loud and long,
Each in his own opinion
Exceeding stiff and strong,
Though each was partly in the right,
And all were in the wrong!
So, in the end, getting a diversity of experiences from people with some level of experience with what you want to experience can be extremely valuable. Taking only one point of view is limited. One's job is to put all the advice together in one world view.
- Take Action. Many successful ideas were perceived as failures at first. At some point, you must take action for the advice to have value, even if some people tell you it sucks. Realize that a full picture of the elephant can never be attained. Furthermore, realize that the picture will be even more inaccurate second-hand. At some point, you just have to directly experience the elephant to know the elephant.
- Take Time into Account. When taking advice from people, be aware that the environments change over time. Therefore, the laws learned in one environment may not be applicable to another. If you walked down a busy city street with bell-bottoms and an afro today, you'd probably get a lot of remarks. Forty years ago this might have been completely normal. In the same way that clothing rules change, other rules about career, school, and culture change - some more quickly than others. When getting feedback about evolving environments, you're essentially asking the blind men (see poem above) to give feedback on an elephant that is constantly change form.
- Beware of Bias. As mentioned earlier, people can only tell you what they know. However, a more realistic expression might be, "People can only tell you what they think they know." I'm sure you have those friends whom exaggerate everything. If they tell you that a cashier was extremely rude to them and told them off, it might just mean that he/she forgot to say thank you. Realize that people see the world differently than you and have differing levels of conscious/unconscious investments in seeing things in certain ways. Also, realize that you are biased too! Don't discount or accept ideas because they feel a certain way when you first hear them!! Take time to mull ideas over and even throw them back at other mentors to see what they think.
To begin your journey on better feedback, begin by challenging what you've been told in the past! Is your parent's advice timely? Does your teacher have first-hand experience with what you want to accomplish? Secondly, take action. Lastly, enjoy!
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July 19, 2004
Body Ritual Among the Nacirema
Below is a fascinating, classic article about culture and its effect on the people who live in it and the institutions that make it up. It was published in 1956 by the American Anthropologist and is now in the public domain. Here, Horace Miner, the author, demonstrates that "attitudes about the body" have a pervasive influence on many institutions in Nacirema society. I think it is a great piece for examining how our culture has an effect on us in ways we may not be aware of.
The anthropologist has become so familiar with the diversity of ways in which different people behave in similar situations that he is not apt to be surprised by even the most exotic customs. In fact, if all of the logically possible combinations of behavior have not been found somewhere in the world, he is apt to suspect that they must be present in some yet undescribed tribe. The point has, in fact, been expressed with respect to clan organization by Murdock. In this light, the magical beliefs and practices of the Nacirema present such unusual aspects that it seems desirable to describe them as an example of the extremes to which human behavior can go.
Professor Linton first brought the ritual of the Nacirema to the attention of anthropologists twenty years ago, but the culture of this people is still very poorly understood. They are a North American group living in the territory between the Canadian Cree, the Yaqui and Tarahumare of Mexico, and the Carib and Arawak of the Antilles. Little is known of their origin, although tradition states that they came from the east....
Nacirema culture is characterized by a highly developed market economy which has evolved in a rich natural habitat. While much of the people's time is devoted to economic pursuits, a large part of the fruits of these labors and a considerable portion of the day are spent in ritual activity. The focus of this activity is the human body, the appearance and health of which loom as a dominant concern in the ethos of the people. While such a concern is certainly not unusual, its ceremonial aspects and associated philosophy are unique.
The fundamental belief underlying the whole system appears to be that the human body is ugly and that its natural tendency is to debility and disease. Incarcerated in such a body, man's only hope is to avert these characteristics through the use of ritual and ceremony. Every household has one or more shrines devoted to this purpose. The more powerful individuals in the society have several shrines in their houses and, in fact, the opulence of a house is often referred to in terms of the number of such ritual centers it possesses. Most houses are of wattle and daub construction, but the shrine rooms of the more wealthy are walled with stone. Poorer families imitate the rich by applying pottery plaques to their shrine walls.
While each family has at least one such shrine, the rituals associated with it are not family ceremonies but are private and secret. The rites are normally only discussed with children, and then only during the period when they are being initiated into these mysteries. I was able, however, to establish sufficient rapport with the natives to examine these shrines and to have the rituals described to me.
The focal point of the shrine is a box or chest which is built into the wall. In this chest are kept the many charms and magical potions without which no native believes he could live. These preparations are secured from a variety of specialized practitioners. The most powerful of these are the medicine men, whose assistance must be rewarded with substantial gifts. However, the medicine men do not provide the curative potions for their clients, but decide what the ingredients should be and then write them down in an ancient and secret language. This writing is understood only by the medicine men and by the herbalists who, for another gift, provide the required charm.
The charm is not disposed of after it has served its purpose, but is placed in the charmbox of the household shrine. As these magical materials are specific for certain ills, and the real or imagined maladies of the people are many, the charm-box is usually full to overflowing. The magical packets are so numerous that people forget what their purposes were and fear to use them again. While the natives are very vague on this point, we can only assume that the idea in retaining all the old magical materials is that their presence in the charm-box, before which the body rituals are conducted, will in some way protect the worshiper.
Beneath the charm-box is a small font. Each day every member of the family, in succession, enters the shrine room, bows his head before the charm-box, mingles different sorts of holy water in the font, and proceeds with a brief rite of ablution. The holy waters are secured from the Water Temple of the community, where the priests conduct elaborate ceremonies to make the liquid ritually pure.
In the hierarchy of magical practitioners, and below the medicine men in prestige, are specialists whose designation is best translated as "holy-mouth-men." The Nacirema have an almost pathological horror of and fascination with the mouth, the condition of which is believed to have a supernatural influence on all social relationships. Were it not for the rituals of the mouth, they believe that their teeth would fall out, their gums bleed, their jaws shrink, their friends desert them, and their lovers reject them. They also believe that a strong relationship exists between oral and moral characteristics. For example, there is a ritual ablution of the mouth for children which is supposed to improve their moral fiber.
The daily body ritual performed by everyone includes a mouth-rite. Despite the fact that these people are so punctilious about care of the mouth, this rite involves a practice which strikes the uninitiated stranger as revolting. It was reported to me that the ritual consists of inserting a small bundle of hog hairs into the mouth, along with certain magical powders, and then moving the bundle in a highly formalized series of gestures.
In addition to the private mouth-rite, the people seek out a holy-mouth-man once or twice a year. These practitioners have an impressive set of paraphernalia, consisting of a variety of augers, awls, probes, and prods. The use of these items in the exorcism of the evils of the mouth involves almost unbelievable ritual torture of the client. The holy-mouth-man opens the client's mouth and, using the above mentioned tools, enlarges any holes which decay may have created in the teeth. Magical materials are put into these holes. If there are no naturally occurring holes in the teeth, large sections of one or more teeth are gouged out so that the supernatural substance can be applied. In the client's view, the purpose of these ministrations is to arrest decay and to draw friends. The extremely sacred and traditional character of the rite is evident in the fact that the natives return to the holy-mouth-men year after year, despite the fact that their teeth continue to decay.
It is to be hoped that, when a thorough study of the Nacirema is made, there will be careful inquiry into the personality structure of these people. One has but to watch the gleam in the eye of a holy-mouth-man, as he jabs an awl into an exposed nerve, to suspect that a certain amount of sadism is involved. If this can be established, a very interesting pattern emerges, for most of the population shows definite masochistic tendencies. It was to these that Professor Linton referred in discussing a distinctive part of the daily body ritual which is performed only by men. This part of the rite includes scraping and lacerating the surface of the face with a sharp instrument. Special women's rites are performed only four times during each lunar month, but what they lack in frequency is made up in barbarity. As part of this ceremony, women bake their heads in small ovens for about an hour. The theoretically interesting point is that what seems to be a preponderantly masochistic people have developed sadistic specialists.
The medicine men have an imposing temple, or latipso, in every community of any size. The more elaborate ceremonies required to treat very sick patients can only be performed at this temple. These ceremonies involve not only the thaumaturge but a permanent group of vestal maidens who move sedately about the temple chambers in distinctive costume and headdress.
The latipso ceremonies are so harsh that it is phenomenal that a fair proportion of the really sick natives who enter the temple ever recover. Small children whose indoctrination is still incomplete have been known to resist attempts to take them to the temple because "that is where you go to die." Despite this fact, sick adults are not only willing but eager to undergo the protracted ritual purification, if they can afford to do so. No matter how ill the supplicant or how grave the emergency, the guardians of many temples will not admit a client if he cannot give a rich gift to the custodian. Even after one has gained and survived the ceremonies, the guardians will not permit the neophyte to leave until he makes still another gift.
The supplicant entering the temple is first stripped of all his or her clothes. In everyday life the Nacirema avoids exposure of his body and its natural functions. Bathing and excretory acts are performed only in the secrecy of the household shrine, where they are ritualized as part of the body-rites. Psychological shock results from the fact that body secrecy is suddenly lost upon entry into the latipso. A man, whose own wife has never seen him in an excretory act, suddenly finds himself naked and assisted by a vestal maiden while he performs his natural functions into a sacred vessel. This sort of ceremonial treatment is necessitated by the fact that the excreta are used by a diviner to ascertain the course and nature of the client's sickness. Female clients, on the other hand, find their naked bodies are subjected to the scrutiny, manipulation and prodding of the medicine men.
Few supplicants in the temple are well enough to do anything but lie on their hard beds. The daily ceremonies, like the rites of the holy-mouth-men, involve discomfort and torture. With ritual precision, the vestals awaken their miserable charges each dawn and roll them about on their beds of pain while performing ablutions, in the formal movements of which the maidens are highly trained. At other times they insert magic wands in the supplicant's mouth or force him to eat substances which are supposed to be healing. From time to time the medicine men come to their clients and jab magically treated needles into their flesh. The fact that these temple ceremonies may not cure, and may even kill the neophyte, in no way decreases the people's faith in the medicine men.
There remains one other kind of practitioner, known as a "listener." This witchdoctor has the power to exorcise the devils that lodge in the heads of people who have been bewitched. The Nacirema believe that parents bewitch their own children. Mothers are particularly suspected of putting a curse on children while teaching them the secret body rituals. The counter-magic of the witchdoctor is unusual in its lack of ritual. The patient simply tells the "listener" all his troubles and fears, beginning with the earliest difficulties he can remember. The memory displayed by the Nacirema in these exorcism sessions is truly remarkable. It is not uncommon for the patient to bemoan the rejection he felt upon being weaned as a babe, and a few individuals even see their troubles going back to the traumatic effects of their own birth.
In conclusion, mention must be made of certain practices which have their base in native esthetics but which depend upon the pervasive aversion to the natural body and its functions. There are ritual fasts to make fat people thin and ceremonial feasts to make thin people fat. Still other rites are used to make women's breasts larger if they are small, and smaller if they are large. General dissatisfaction with breast shape is symbolized in the fact that the ideal form is virtually outside the range of human variation. A few women afflicted with almost inhuman hyper-mammary development are so idolized that they make a handsome living by simply going from village to village and permitting the natives to stare at them for a fee.
Reference has already been made to the fact that excretory functions are ritualized, routinized, and relegated to secrecy. Natural reproductive functions are similarly distorted. Intercourse is taboo as a topic and scheduled as an act. Efforts are made to avoid pregnancy by the use of magical materials or by limiting intercourse to certain phases of the moon. Conception is actually very infrequent. When pregnant, women dress so as to hide their condition. Parturition takes place in secret, without friends or relatives to assist, and the majority of women do not nurse their infants.
Our review of the ritual life of the Nacirema has certainly shown them to be a magic-ridden people. It is hard to understand how they have managed to exist so long under the burdens which they have imposed upon themselves. But even such exotic customs as these take on real meaning when they are viewed with the insight provided by Malinowski when he wrote: Looking from far and above, from our high places of safety in the developed civilization, it is easy to see all the crudity and irrelevance of magic. But without its power and guidance early man could not have mastered his practical difficulties as he has done, nor could man have advanced to the higher stages of civilization.
Ed Note: If you haven't gotten it already, spell Nacirema backwards!
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May 25, 2004
The Passion Mystique
Time management seems deceptively simple. In fact, some have even widdled it down to the following two actions: - Plan the action (something you're passionate about)
- Act on the plan
However, when trying to follow these two tenets, we often only get half way there. This informal article demystifies the distractions we face and shows how they often arise from one core error in thinking.
Imagine. You're working on the computer with ten windows open; with your phone, TV and instant messenger on; and with your email program automatically checking and alerting you of new emails every few minutes. Does all or part of this sound familiar? Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a distraction such as talking to a friend online having completely forgotten what you had originally set out to do?
I would argue that we create these distractions internally and that they are symptoms of a false belief. To find this false belief, we must find what causes the symptoms, not simply try to eliminate them. Simply eliminating them will lead to the arising of new distractions.
The reality of life is that there's some stuff we like doing and there's some stuff we don't like doing. The activities that don't get done are often the ones we don't like. This dilemma seemingly leads to two solutions: - Get rid of the activities we don't like.
- Learn to like everything.
Most people would choose option #1. However, I would argue that option #1 is mostly an illusion. The illusion comes from thinking that our likes and dislikes are external when, in reality, they are internal.
One example of this is the beginning of passionate/romantic relationships. These relationships are often characterized by not being able to see any flaws in the other person and spending lots of time together. However, over time, flaws begin to arise and the initial passion may disappear. At this point, the relationship often ends with the leaving person citing the other person changing as the reason for the break. However, the change, for the most part, is internal.
I would argue that individuals have similar relationships with activities in life. This can be seen when they jump from one project they're passionate about to another project without ever really getting anywhere. It can also be seen on a micro-level when people procrastinate on small tasks.
Yes, we should do what we're passionate about, but we should also learn to love what we don't like in every moment. Furthermore, we can actually see the things we don't like as opportunities for growth.
With that said, the best time management strategy I can offer is, "Be comfortable being uncomfortable" and "Find the passion in every moment. Learn to see every moment as something to cherish and appreciate, not something to avoid and change".
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October 03, 2003
Use Your Youth To Your Advantage
Find out what 6 advantages young entrepreneurs have--but probably don't realize.
Entrepreneur.com - September 2003
by Michael Simmons
You should wait until you're older and have more business and real-world experience before starting a business. You should just focus on school for now. Nobody will take you seriously at this age.
You'll hear all these reasons--and more--about why you shouldn't start a business from your friends, your parents, your advisors and many others who only have your best intentions at heart. But before you start believing what you hear, take a moment to think to yourself, What would have happened if somebody had told these arguments to and convinced: - Bill Gates who left Harvard to start Microsoft
- Michael Dell who left the University of Texas to start Dell
- Milton Hershey who opened his first candy shop when he was 18
- Fred Smith who, while attending Yale, received a "C" on his Fedex business plan and decided to start his business anyway
- Steve Jobs who left Reed University to start Apple
- William Hewlett and David Packard who started HP out of a garage after graduating from Stanford
- Or the thousands of other young people who have started a business and been successful
Imagine the potential that would have been stifled if these visionaries hadn't started businesses when they were young! Imagine how our world would have been different without an HP, a Dell, a Microsoft, a Fedex, a Hersheys or an Apple.
Young entrepreneurs are not anomalies. Below are six ways that youthful entrepreneurs have the cards tipped in their favor: - It's easier to exceed expectations and harder to not meet them. The fact that adults expect less from young people can be used to your advantage. It's OK if you're not perfectly polished. It will take less effort to please clients and make a name for yourself with the media.
- There's little competition from other students. How many students do you know who are entrepreneurs? There are definitely not many, which makes your story more press-, scholarship-, competition-, client- and award-worthy. And remember, accomplishments that are incredible in college become less impressive as you get older.
- There are resources that support youthful endeavors. There are many nonprofit organizations and individuals that focus on or are more than willing to specifically support entrepreneurial youth. First on this list is your school, which probably has teachers who can assist you or who have contacts in the business community that can further your goals.
- You have an existing passive secondary stream of income. Students often have income coming in from their parents. Enen if it's not consistent, then it's at least something you know you can always fall back on. If you're venture fails when you're young, you probably won't starve or lose your house in the process.
- There's a synergy between your school and your business. The practical knowledge you learn from running your business can help your academic work and vice-versa. Some schools will allow you to earn academic credit from or do an independent study of your business. You can also base class projects on your business. That means, you might be able to create a marketing plan or develop new sales strategies or markets for your business on your "school time."
- Your creativity is probably at a high point. Young people have a fresh perspective on the world. This perspective lends itself to seeing many opportunities that haven't already been exploited. The founders of Microsoft, Yahoo, Dell and FedEx all saw unique opportunities and capitalized on them when they were still students.
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August 22, 2003
How to Achieve Massive Success Before Graduating
How do you land your dream job, win the world's most prestigious scholarships, and get into your top school choices? Conventionally, students are taught that the main way to achieve these things are by getting great grades in the right classes and getting great summer jobs in the right fields.
This strategy may have been a safe bet for awhile, but it simply isn't anymore. With more and more people applying to the same positions, competition is spiking dramatically. Simply working harder or taking a test prep course isn't enough anymore. In fact, it's risky.
The best way to achieve massive success is to passionately plan, prioritize, and pursue your vision today, not tomorrow! Landing your dream job, winning the world's most prestigious scholarships, and getting into your top choice school has more to do with the choices you make today rather than how well you fill out your application. College students from across the country, even from the most prestigious universities, learned this lesson the hard way last year when fewer positions were available and recruiters had stacks of hundreds of resumes.
Below are some examples of students who planned, prioritized, and pursued their vision early and achieved massive results: - Successful serial entrepreneur, Joshua Newman, was offered a senior technology analyst position before he graduated from Yale by one of his former clients over dinner.
- Devi Sridhar won the Rhodes Scholarship, the nation's most prestigious scholarship, when she didn't even decide to apply until a few months before the application was due. Some of the people that didn't end up winning had been preparing for over three years. She had done most of the work in the years prior when she was pursuing her vision.
- Jamie Gonzalez, a successful student entrepreneur from the University of Oklahoma, got the highest job offer in his class even though he had a paltry 2.4 GPA.
So what can you do? Below are 10 tips for achieving mega success before you graduate: - You?re failing if you?re not making enough mistakes. One thing successful people have in common is that they fail a lot. The average millionaire goes bankrupt more than once. Pursue your dreams and use failures as stepping stones. ?Every adversity carries with it the seeds of a greater benefit.? ? Napoleon Hill, Best-Selling Author, Think and Grow Rich
- If you don?t have skeptics, than you?re not thinking big enough. To be in the top .000000001% you cannot follow the road most taken. You must create your own. ?If at first the idea is not absurd, then there is no hope for it.? ? Albert Einstein
- Never take a job for money. Like a business, we all have tangible and intangible assets. Intangible benefits to our brand, network, growth, and knowledge are more important than our salary or hourly wage when choosing a career. ?If a man empties his purse into his head, no man can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.? ? Benjamin Franklin
- Good grades and test scores are risky. The opposite of good is great. By achieving our school system?s goals, we are set up to be good, but not great. We must create our own path in life. Like a business creates a business plan, individuals must create a life plan. ?There is no correlation between high SAT scores, good grades, and money.? ? Thomas Stanley, author, The Millionaire Mind
- Experience and knowledge can make you close-minded. By having experience of how things should be, we become close-minded to how they could be. Today?s youth, the first generation to grow up with the Internet, have access to and the ability to implement new opportunities that adults can not see. ?Young people will dominate most of the twenty-first century.? ? Don Tapscott, best-selling author, Growing Up Digital
- If you are comfortable, than you?re obsolete. By being comfortable being uncomfortable, we create new possibilities in our lives that allow us to excel over others who refuse to change or grow. ?Restlessness and discontent are the first necessities of progress.? ? Thomas Edison
Don?t pursue backup plans. Because of fear of failure, many people pursue careers that are safe, but that they are not passionate about. By doing this they set themselves up to be average. Individuals who plan, prioritize, and pursue their vision are bound to succeed. ?Most people live and die with their music unplayed. They never dare to try.? ? Mary Kay Ash, founder, Mary Kay Cosmetics
- Don?t always listen to your friends and family. While your friends and family may have the best intentions for you, their first reaction is often to shelter you from being hurt instead of encouraging you to take risks and pursue your dreams. ?Be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best - night and day - to make you everybody else.? ? E.E. Cummings, poet
- Pursue Extreme Endeavors. Pursue unconventional, success activities that you friends only dream about such as; making a job in a company or your own business, taking time off from school, shadowing a role model, attending interesting and relevant seminars/conferences, and conducting informational interviews. ?In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.? ? Coco Chanel
- Plan, prioritize, and pursue your vision before you graduate. It is better to have a quarter-life crisis than a mid-life crisis. The decisions that you make now determine whether you have a life of success or distress. "The time is always right to do what is right.? ? Martin Luther King
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