Laws of Attraction

What causes us to connect with, to love, other human being? What is it that attracts us to one person but not another? It certainly is nothing logical, although we try to rationalize it in our heads. “I like him because he makes me laugh; I like her because she’s so much like me; We’re best friends because we’ve known each other for so long.” But then what happens when the person you feel this “connection” with is someone who, for all logical, reasons is someone you shouldn’t like? Or vice-versa.

I have had experiences where I have met extremely interesting people who are interested in many of the same things that I am, but as much as I wanted to, I could not build that feeling of connection. It wasn’t that I didn’t like them. There was just no “chemistry”. And I have met people that, even in a very short period of time, I have developed a very deep connection with.

I would really love to know what creates and sustains these bonds. Are we attracted to particular people for a reason? I read somewhere a theory that while we communicate on a worldly level, unbeknownst to our egos our souls are at the same time communicating, and this determines our level of attraction. I suppose this is possible. And then, to take this question one step further, once we are attracted to another person, what determines whether this will be a romantic or more friendly attraction?