Polymory
Having close connections with people is something that has been important to me. I love the feeling of feeling really connected to someone. I think it is one of the best feelings there is.
This was one of the things that got me interested in the idea of an open relationship - the logic being that physical contact with femailes is an extension of a deep connection and makes it deeper. Furthermore the logic was, why does this connection have to be with only one person. Is it such that it would become weakened by sharing it with others?
As with most experiments in my life, I've read books on it and it turns out there is a whole community of people who believe in it, but that's besides the point. Here is my current thinking on it:
- I don't think there is anything 'wrong' with it. The feelings that come up from both sides are opportunities for growth. I would go as far as to say "Incredible Growth!! if expressed in the right way.
- I think intimate contact with others and the longing for it changes the dynamic of the original connection and also makes things more complicated by introducing a romantic component. This is ok, if you're ready for it and willing to put the energy toward it.
- EXTREMELY clear communication is required, preferably by everyone with each other. The potential for miscommunication and loss of trust could is big.